How to Analyze People – Daniel Spade

Introduction

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Have you ever walked into a confrontation feeling so sure of yourself, then
walk out feeling confused, but with no valid reason why you would be
convinced by the other person? Have you ever walked out of a conversation
agreeing to do something for someone but could not identify why you
agreed to it in the first place? Chances are, you’ve manipulated. Whether by
playing on your emotions or through persuasive words, you were brought to
believe in or act on something that you were not entirely agreeable to
initially. You could be utterly convinced and so sure of yourself before you
began the conversation but midway, you found yourself at a loss for words,
confused, frazzled and disoriented.

Manipulation can feel like you are being controlled, and leave you doubting
your own abilities. Being manipulated constantly can leave you frustrated,
demoralized and despondent, wondering how you didn’t see this coming.
Could you have prevented it though, IF you knew just how to analyze the
signs that indicate one someone may be up to no good?
Manipulators exercise their influence by exploiting your emotions and
distorting your mental perceptions to control and gain benefits from you.

They prey on your weaknesses and take advantage of you through
communication strategies designed to distract you enough that you don’t
see what they’re up to until it’s too late. It is important to identify whether
you are being manipulated to protect yourself from being taken advantage
of, and facilitate a healthy balance of power in relationships. And it begins
by learning how to analyze people.

One of the other ways to tell whether you are being manipulated is through
body language. The powerful, unspoken and subtle cues that speak volumes
when you know what to look out for. By recognizing the gestures, postures
and facial expressions emitted, one can identify and understand the
complete message of what someone is trying -or trying not- to say.

Learning how to analyze another can yield some fascinating revelations,
and more importantly, open your eyes to the signs that you may be taken
advantage so you can take the steps to prevent or stop the advances
completely.